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Planning a wedding as a mummy carries a slightly different weight. There’s excitement, of course, and joy in bringing people together, but your children sit at the very centre of it all. For many mummy-brides, the dream isn’t about a flawless timeline or a child-free celebration, it’s about creating a day that feels right for everyone they love, especially their little ones.

What often catches mums off guard is the feeling that comes alongside that excitement. The sense of being gently pulled in more than one direction. Wanting to be fully present for your wedding day, while also wanting to stay closely connected to your children because you care deeply about how the day feels for them too.

The joys of mummy guilt. And as a mummy myself, I understand it wholeheartedly.

Understanding the Pull Many Mummy-Brides Feel

Mummy guilt isn’t about feeling unsure or conflicted. It’s about love. It’s about wanting your child’s experience to matter just as much as your own, even on a day that’s meant to celebrate you as a couple.

Many mummy-brides worry that having support on their wedding day means stepping away from their children, missing moments, or handing something deeply personal over to someone else. There’s often an unspoken fear that support creates distance.

In reality, thoughtful wedding childcare looks very different to that.

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Why It’s Not About Choosing One Role Over the Other

One of the biggest misconceptions I see is the idea that mummy-brides have to choose, between being present as a bride or present as a mummy.

In my experience, mums don’t want less time with their children. What they want is reassurance. They want to know their child is happy, settled, and being cared for with intention, so that the moments they do share feel calm, unhurried, and genuinely special.

When that reassurance is there, something shifts. The mental load lightens, the constant checking softens and the day begins to unfold more naturally.

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What Thoughtful Wedding Childcare Really Looks Like

When wedding childcare is approached with care and understanding, it doesn’t take children away from their parents. Instead, it supports them around the family and this has always been central to how I work.

I support little ones throughout the day, paying close attention to their cues, routines and emotional needs, so parents can move in and out of moments naturally without feeling torn.

Because there’s a consistent, trusted presence there, parents don’t have to worry about what their child needs next. They can be present when they’re together, and step away when needed, knowing their child is settled, supported, and enjoying their own little version of the day.

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Why This Matters So Deeply to Me

This is a part of my work that I absolutely love. Supporting parents and little ones on such a special day is an honour I cherish everyday and one of the reasons it means so much is because I’ve lived it myself.

When I got married, I had a four-year-old and a four-month-old. I know how much you want to soak up every part of your wedding day, and how difficult it can feel to ever fully switch off from being a mummy.

I also had one of my own nannies there on the day, and I still remember the sense of relief that came with that. Knowing she had the logistics, the timings, the little details and the mental load meant I didn’t have to carry it all myself. I could dip in and out of time with my children, enjoy unrushed cuddles, and be fully present without that constant background worry.

That experience shapes the way I work. I don’t simply look after children on wedding days, I support families, holding the emotional side of the day just as carefully as the practical one.

Holding Both Roles With Confidence

With the right support in place, mummy-brides don’t have to choose between being present for their children and present for their wedding.

They can be both.

Their children feel safe, happy, and cared for, and they’re free to relax into the day, knowing nothing important is being missed. By the end of it all, there’s no second-guessing or quiet guilt lingering afterwards, just the calm reassurance that their child was cared for beautifully, and that they were able to fully be a bride too.

This is the balance I specialise in creating, because you don’t have to choose between being a bride and being a mummy.